Updated: Mar 15, 2021
The truth is hard to handle.
Especially if it refers to yourself. It’s easy to judge others, but what about judging yourself?
Can you handle that?
We often develop a blind spot around our happiness. Deep down we know what we have to change but somehow, we don’t let the truth get in our head. We act as we are deaf.
The main reason is that even as a child, we learned that it’s somehow too harsh to throw the truth in somebody’s face. It is considered impolite.
Children, can handle the truth and are not afraid to talk about what we think about situations, choices, or people, but as we become older, we learn to bend the truth or even lie flat out.
A child soon explores in life that lying is much easier than telling the truth. We are conditioned to lie because lying is more rewarding than telling the truth.
We even get to a point that we get punished when we tell the truth as a child. We soon find out that adults don't like to hear the truth, so we develop a way to move around difficult subjects of somehow alter our words that we do not have to tell the truth.
And yes, most of the time we lie.
That’s no surprise given the circumstances.
And here’s the problem.
To lead a happy life, you need to be able to face the blunt truth. Because being happy often means you have to change. But how can you change if no one tells you what the problem is?
And you need to be willing to accept this truth and work with it. That is the first step to happiness. As long as you lie to yourself nothing ever changes.
That takes some courage.
The good thing is that once you’ve taken the first step it will get easier. As soon as you start working on yourself after confronting yourself with the truth, things will start to move in the right direction.
It is vital to accept the truth and to find people who are not afraid of telling it to your face.
Most people avoid this kind of friend, but you should embrace them.
They will lead you to a much happier and fulfilling life.